Perspective vs. Reality in Relationships

8/10/2020

Relationships can be pretty complex. One of the biggest complexities of a relationship, is that you are two people living in two completely different realities.

Each of your has a different lens in which you see the world. This lens has been developed over time by your past experiences.

Because we all have different experiences, we all have different lenses.

Ever had the thoughts, "How could my partner of thought that, or felt that, or did that?" It sometimes feels like your partner isn't even witnessing the same thing you are.

And they're not.

But it's not because they are out of touch, or living in the clouds, it's because of that different lens that they have.

In conflict, this pops up all the time. Most of the time spent in arguments is focused around who's perspective is right. Couples then get lost in arguing about their realities, rather than solving the issues at hand.

In this week's video, the focus is on identifying your partner's reality, it's different than yours. And instead of agreeing to disagree, validating your partner's perspective.

My challenge to you, is to find one thing in your partner's perspective that you can validate. I.e. you could see how they were viewing a situation.

This doesn't mean you have to agree with your partner, but it does mean, you have to attempt to understand and be empathetic towards your partner.

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